I choose to focus on beauty instead

While this space is mainly about easy, homemade recipes, it is also about telling stories, and to a much smaller extent, my views on life in general.

And while this post has absolutely nothing to do with food, but instead looks at life and the way we see it, I hope you’ll enjoy it as much as I did writing it, even if you first came to this site looking for a recipe or a kitchen tip or two.




Some days, it’s easier to look at the storms clouds rolling by, instead of focusing on the tiny streak of sunlight peeking through the grey.

Other days, we concentrate on our worries, our losses, and our hardships, instead of celebrating our joys and successes, no matter how tiny they may seem.

And yes, while it may be easy to think of how little we have; it often does us more good to appreciate and be thankful for that with which we are blessed.

Because I was born with a large dose of optimism and christened “Felicia”, which essentially means “the happy one”, I’ve always found myself tilted towards a sunshiny and jovial personality.

I’m the kind that looks at a traffic jam and am grateful for more time to read my latest book. I’m also the sort of girl who laughs at the situation when I get splashed at by a passing car on a rainy day.

Basically, I’m the kind of person who greets a pile of mess, and tries to search for the one spot of beauty, and then, spends some moments admiring it. I’m also the kind of girl who looks at dark silhouettes and sees them for their glorious contrast against the light.

I choose to focus on beauty instead, rather than the mess, because there are some things just not worth our time worrying about.

I choose to focus on beauty instead

And sometimes, I believe, it is this innate ability to look at the bright spot in the patch of dark, that has drawn me to other like-minded souls, just like Shanna, my favorite blogger at Food Loves Writing and Ashley, the creator of Not Without Salt, both of whom have inspired this train of thought.

I unconsciously gravitate towards other people who appreciate the texture of cracked porcelain, seeing it for its tiny pieces of fragile beauty, instead of a broken vase. There is a strong force of attraction that pulls me to those who can rise up from a situation of endless tough days, and still meet the world with genuine joy – joy not because of their circumstance, but in spite of it. I find a sincere smile and a wholehearted laugh (the kind which makes your abs muscles ache) so much more beautiful than a face thick with makeup and fake courtesies.

At the same time, I naturally stay away from those who refuse to get out of their rut; I intentionally try to fill my spaces with positivity, love, and joy.


Of course, there are those who think being too optimistic is the result of being ungrounded – that those like me are flawed by unrealistic views of life.

But does it really have to be that way?

That life can only be lived if you’re always peering so hard at the cracks that you miss the lovely grain in the hardwood parquet floor? Or that you’re always afraid that you don’t deserve for good things to happen, so you breathe a sigh of relief when something bad strikes, just so you can say “I told you so”? Or that you’re always complaining of every single thing that comes your way, so much so that people start moving away from you because your negativity is pulling them down?

No, it doesn’t have to be that way.

You can wake up early in the morning and be thankful you managed to catch the sunrise; or leave the office so late but appreciate that the subway is no longer jammed with the peak-hour crowd.

You can choose to live a life of abundance, an existence of joy with a focus on beauty.

Yes, I’m telling you, you can.

I’ve realized that when you intentionally focus on the good and positive and beautiful aspects of life; you tend to remove the focus from the bad and the negative and the ugly.

So do this with me, dear friends..

Think of one thing that made you smile today, and then, focus on it.

Yes, you can.

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Felicia is a Singaporean who's currently located in Buenos Aires, also known as the "Paris of South America". After moving to Argentina because of love, she found herself grappling with the mysterious concept known as cooking. Starting this blog has helped her explore the kitchen, the effect cooking has on our lives, and generally helped her make more friends with people like you! Please stay a while and explore!

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Lovely comments

  1. Suzy says

    The one thing that made me smile this morning is you, Flea! I could sure use some of your optimism everyday! Wish I could talk to you more often! Hugssss

    • says

      Awwww you’re sooo sweet Suze! I miss u too! We really should Skype soon! I see the pictures u upload to Familiar and it’s amazing how fast Sara and Sophia are growing!! Big hug to u and them and Fran! Love u!

  2. says

    After reading your post, which, by the way is “me” to the core, I have decided to “not” bookmark it…but, copy, paste and print! :) Felicia you have such a beautiful outlook on life. I need more friends like you! I could go on and on, however, instead I think I will just quietly ponder.

  3. gracelimsaifong says

    A very inspiring message. Yes Felicia means a happy one. A name we specially selected for each of you .. Valerie – the determined one, Ronald – the strong and dependable one. Through this Food for thought message I am glad that your experience of happiness would motivate others – .

    Life is about a choice. Does one see a bottle half-empty or half-full? A positive mindset gives us the natural energy to achieve great things.A negative mindset will set one back to inertia -weighed by anxiety and fear.

    Most importantly underlying all these, is our ability to love oneself, God and others.

    Our faith in Jesus Christ have thought us this –
    Mark 12:30-31 New International Version (NIV)
    “12.30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ 12.31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b] There is no commandment greater than these.”

    Love daddy

    • says

      Hola Paula!

      what a lovely balance! never thought about it that way, but yes, we should always try to tilt the balance in the favor of positive thoughts & actions. thanks for sharing that with me :)

      Buena semana!
      Un beso!


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